When the sequences of BDSM turned out to be rather vanilla, I had to find something else to focus on.
We can’t blame porn for vanilla being less desirable - it never really was in the first place. Sure it can be lovely, but missionary every day? No way, Jose.
I don’t crave punishment. I don’t want to be tied up, or hit, or insulted, or scared. I like sexual congress that is...nice. Does that sound bad?