YOU ARE THE ADVICE COLUMNIST: My Girlfriend's Family Hates Me

Is this relationship something I should give up on if her family still doesn’t budge?

Sep 17, 2013 at 6:30pm | Leave a comment

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I’ve been dating a girl for about 6 months now. We’ve gone to her house twice for me to meet/visit with her family, and both times, they weren’t too impressed with me. I was apparently too shy the first time (boisterous, judgy bunch), and the second time I was so terrified of her siblings/mom that I got drunk to relieve my anxiety and as a result got into a big fight with her while the whole brood watched. I don’t even remember doing it. Now, though, they all hate me and tell my girlfriend that I’m just not the type of person that fits in with their family. One family member Facebook messages my girlfriend’s friends to ask for gossip about me, and they all say that I’m great, but it doesn’t seem to change things.

A few months have passed since our last visit and things with my girlfriend are better than ever (and I haven’t acted out since), and I’m really thinking of getting serious with this relationship. Though, I know I couldn’t bear the heartache if I go to make a commitment (not soon, no worries) to her and she refuses, folding under her family’s pressure. She is nervous, but plans to talk to her family about me and how great things are, but I don’t know what to do in the meantime.
So I have to ask:
What can I do to alleviate the situation in the meantime, if anything?
Is this relationship something I should give up on if her family still doesn’t budge?
And, those of you with evil mothers-in-law, etc: how do you deal/does this hurt your relationship?
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