YOU ARE THE ADVICE COLUMNIST: My Boyfriend Is Too Quick To Finish

How should I approach this? Or do you guys have any methods that you have used that I could suggest or implement?

Nov 14, 2013 at 6:30pm | Leave a comment

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My boyfriend and I have been together for two years, and while I have no intention of breaking up with him, we have a big issue that needs to be somehow improved or resolved. And that problem? He comes reaaaaallllly quick. Like, 30 seconds, or something. It's been that way the whole time we've been dating, but he was sexually inexperienced, so I figured that would work itself out. Obviously, it hasn't. A while ago he would bring it up and kind of passively look up/try different methods, but I think he gave up when none of them worked immediately. Now he'll either say nothing or apologize and then roll over and fall asleep. He always makes me come before intercourse, so that's not the issue, I just really miss the actual act itself. Also, it's made our sex life very boring--I can't really perform any foreplay on him because it exacerbates the problem, and we can never make it past one position. I really need for him to actively work on this, but I'm having a lot of trouble broaching the subject--I don't want to make him feel bad or anxious about it, because I'm afraid that'll make it worse, but I want him to know that it's very important to my satisfaction that we do something about it. This is where I hope you guys can help me! How should I approach this? Or do you guys have any methods that you have used that I could suggest or implement?

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