I know a lot of people judge me (shout-out to MSNBC's Thomas Roberts who went on air and called me "batshit crazy"), but I don't think it is their right to judge -- just as it is not my right to judge them. We all have what we want to do in life and what our own personal standards are.
Why does having a sexting affair with a married man or even doing porn make someone a "bad person"? Give me a break. I'm not a war criminal. I'm a human being who has made certain choices, some of which involve my sexuality.
Yes, I've made thousands of dollars from sugar daddies.
I enjoy my sexuality, and it doesn't make me anything other than what I am: a young woman who's enjoying her life to the fullest and going on plenty of adventures with willing partners.
To Maureen Dowd and every other woman who thinks she knows anything about me -- or anything about feminism for that matter -- you don't.
For me, Anthony Weiner was a weird science experiment. I wanted to see how far it could go. How far could I push it? How long could it go on? Part of me wonders if his refusal to quit is his OWN science experiment.
Anthony says he hasn't been cheating on Huma for six months. Wrong. He last contacted me as recently as April 12. Straight up lies.
Looking back, my secret was a strange one to keep. I didn't tell anyone what I was doing. My affair with Anthony was almost like my best friend. I started to alienate people. Whatever time I had, I was spending talking to him. We were like a little obsessed with each other. I do feel disloyal to him now, but I don't think I owe him anything.
As far as Huma and his son, those are not my choices, and I was just one of many of Anthony's women. I don't believe there is some "sister's code." That's a lie. Otherwise, infidelity wouldn't exist.
All is fair in love and war. I'm not the one who is married. I'm obviously responsible for everything I've done, but I'm not running for mayor of New York City.
Now, in case anyone wants to be as stupid as I was, here is my guide to seducing a politician.
#1: Indulge his crazy alter-ego, and whatever you do, don't laugh at him. When in doubt, use a smiley-face and tell him you actually mean it.
It's hard sometimes, but you have to keep a straight face. Like, Anthony would thank me every time he had an orgasm. I don't think I ever said "You're welcome." Who thanks someone after an orgasm?
Anthony would also call me "baby" to the point that it was almost crazy. It was too much.
You have to be prepared to keep a straight face in awkward times. You basically have to be in campaign mode.
It's important to pretend like you're thinking about them 24/7 throughout the day. They want to be coddled like a baby. Basically, pretend like you're dating the middle school version of yourself. Like the prepubescent horny teenage girl with all these emotions. Lovey dovey bullshit, basically. Little stuff like "I'm thinking about you" or "I miss you."
Dangr33: I love to think about how you look fresh out of bed, getting dressed, all dolled up. seeing the stuff only your lover would see.
Sydney: I'm sure you'll get to see it all someday :)
#2: Be a little coy first. Don't be so aggressive.
When Anthony would flirt with me at first I would pretend like I didn't know he was flirting. That just makes them 10 times more interested. It's a little trick.
Dangr33: so I missed the tall black heels?
Sydney: Unfortunately :(
Dangr33: did you let a boy take off your party dress? (h/t elvis costello)
Sydney: Nope. I was a good girl.
#3: Be prepared to make the first move, play on his ego and resist being sexual when he wants to be sexual. It will drive him crazy.
I messaged Anthony in 2011 saying I was "disappointed" in his behavior from his first sexting scandal. Then he "poked" me out of nowhere on Facebook and said he was "sorry for letting me down." I love that he poked me. When "Inside Edition" asked me what "poking" was, I told them, "Yeah, it's a button on Facebook you push if you want to fuck someone." I've deactivated Facebook since then. It's trouble.For example:
Dangr33: If I met you at a bar and tried to talk to you, would I have a chance?
Sydney: Absolutely! You're such an amazing man. I still can't believe someone like you would pay attention to someone like me. It's literally a dream come true.
#4: Figure out his weaknesses early on. If he's insecure, you've hit gold. Then torture him by playing hard to get.
Wait maybe two days before responding. Don't respond to anything immediately, ever. Even if you get it immediately, don't respond.
Never make him feel like he totally has you. If I had messaged him initially and told him, "You're hot," he wouldn't have been interested. I think the fact that I played it cool made him kind of crazy. So did not responding to everything he wrote immediately.
And actually have a life. Although, to be quite honest, when we were talking and sexting multiple times a day, I did end up planning my days around him. Pathetic, but at least he never knew this.
Dangr33: you sure do run hot and cold. is that like a thing? been mia. not the over rated sri lankan rapper.
Sydney: I'm sorry. I've been very stressed out. I miss you though. I want you in my life every single day.
#5: Make him jealous and then switch it up and make him feel secure. Kind of like "48 Laws of Power." Politicians are in it to win it so always be in "flirting campaign mode."
Men will never admit it, but they like to be made jealous. They love the chase. Anthony wanted his ego stroked and wanted to control the conversation -- but he wanted to fight to get there. It was basically like he felt like he was ranting on the house floor. He wants an audience.
Think of it this way: He's an actual politician. You have to be a flirting politician.
Dangr33: I have a bone to pick. not happy with the world getting a sexy shoe shot before I do. just sayin.
Sydney: I thought I sent that to you first?
#6: Go for someone who you know is tempted by hot chicks online. Once he's interested, find out his fetish as soon as you can.
Go for someone you know won't be able to resist you.
Yes, Anthony is married with a child. So you have to be comfortable that some people are going to brand you as an evil home wrecker. Don't read the negative comments or tweets. You just kind of have to own it and be honest and keep your head up no matter what people think of you.
Also, for the record, I didn't ask for any dick pictures. He brought it up first. And then I acted uninterested and then he acted shy and it was this thing that was a drug for a while. He even told me that he was nervous. And then he sent it and said, "If this gets out anywhere, I will know that you did it." How sexy is that? That's a total turn on. He actually labeled the first one "For Syd." How sweet. The other one was called "Hangin'."
Even when he asked me to delete them, I would keep it just in case. Like a security blanket. I said that I did, but I didn't. He could easily say I was stalking him.
As for finding out the fetish, for Anthony he was obsessed with me in heels. Anything in heels he would flip out. And he would dream about shower sex and then call me and tell me about it and masturbate. Like first thing in the morning.
Dangr33: so I walk in to a hotel room and you are at the end of the bed, naked except for some amazing fuckme shoes. your legs are spread. your feet are flat on the ground you are leaning slightly forward. looking completely in charge.
Sydney: you know we could always make that fantasy a reality :)
#7: Give him more attention than he's ever known from a woman. Tell him he is sexy, and be specific about why he is.
Politicians are the biggest attention whores you will ever meet.
I would tell Anthony how sexy he was, and he would want really specific stuff. He said, "What photo of me do you think is the hottest?" He would really want to know which rant on the house floor was the sexiest. What turned me on the most.
You have to drive him wild. After you play coy initially, once you do give in, then play along with whatever he wants.
With Anthony, I said whatever he wanted to hear, and I took a ton of pictures. We talked on the phone all the time. I gave him as much attention as he wanted. It was like a drug for him.
Dangr33: I was reading your tweets and looking at your pics. so I thought i'd hold your wrists to settle you down.
Sydney: ...you have no idea how turned on I am right now. I really want you to manhandle me.
#8: Find a horny non-politician to finance all the expensive shoes and lingerie pics you're sexting your politician boyfriend. Constantly, be painting a picture of yourself in your politician's brain.
I don't know about you, but I'm really bad at monogamy.
I feel like you need one secure, solid guy in your life for a long time that you always go back to who is your comfort zone. Obviously that wasn't Anthony. Then you've got something like this which is exciting and fun. You need different things. It's boring if you have one thing all the time. I was in a relationship for a year and a half with this awful dude that was another experiment. How long can I stick this out? How can we possibly stand each other? That was right before Anthony. I guess I've had two years of experimenting.
Purchase items your politician might like. I remember buying sexy negligee type things and lacy see-through thongs and really feminine stuff because he loved that.
But with a politician, you have to remember: You're probably not going to get money. You're in it for the thrill of it.
At the same time as my Anthony affair, I did have a guy who was sending me money. He would PayPal me sometimes. Like, "Here's 600 bucks." I never hooked up with him, I just sent him some photos. I felt like I needed to. He was always like "I don't want you to feel like you owe me." He was a bored, rich man.
So definitely: Find a horny non-politician to finance your politician sexting.
And don't be too proud for selfies.
There was only one time I had a girlfriend take some lingerie pictures for me, but it's only because it wasn't graphic.
With selfies, you can take them wherever. Embarrassingly some were in my bathroom but a lot were in the bed because that was the sexy thing to do. And I would intentionally wear heels in bed. Do things that aren't normal. Like I don't care if it's porno lashes or big heels in bed, just do it. Paint the picture.
Dangr33: what are you wearing? (youve never disappointed me. like never.)
Sydney: I have on a red dress that has a see through black mesh top. And very tall gold wedges.
#9: Tell him how big his weiner is -- especially if it's Weiner.
I mean for Anthony, it is. It's not even a lie.
You have to let them be the needy one.
The best way to compliment on penis shot: Be really specific. Not just length but girth and everything. Really be specific. Tell him what you want to do with it, whatever. I would say "I've never been with someone so big" or "I just want to blow you," even though I didn't.
I actually did use a vibrator when I was talking to him a few times so I did actually orgasm. You know what's funny? I used a purple Rabbit vibrator that a past sugar daddy got me for Valentine's Day.
Dangr33: I'm surprisingly big
Sydney: Oh believe me, I've noticed.
#10 Alternate between innocent and vague, then dirty and specific, and occasionally throw in a mention of something political he did.
Don't play dumb. I would say just be a little shy and bashful. When he flirts with you, show innocence. I am so vague in everything that I say. Everything is really short and to the point.
Then when it matters, you pull out your "dirty tricks."
Also: Make sure you keep up with his career. Set up a Google-alert on his name. Then when you talk or sext, mention little tidbits about what they've done because politicians love that.
Dangr33: so you won't tell me what picture of me you like the most or turned you on the most? only tv?
Sydney: Specifically your health care rants were a huge turn on
You can follow Sydney on Twitter @sydneyelainexo.