YOU ARE THE ADVICE COLUMNIST: My Boyfriend Lost His Sex Drive

I am considering antidepressants to kill my libido.

Sep 16, 2013 at 6:30pm | Leave a comment

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for over two years. In that time, he has gained a lot of weight and his sex drive has almost completely diminished. I have a very high sex drive and when we started dating, I was under the impression that I was getting into a relationship with someone I was sexually compatible with. When I try to instigate sex, he either says he is too tired or will agree to have sex with me but doesn't make an effort to do much. I feel like I need the more physical aspects of a relationship to feel completely engaged and my boyfriend's disinterest in sex kills both my self-esteem and my faith in our relationship. What do I do? We have talked about this a lot and there doesn't seem to be a clear solution. I have tried convincing myself sex isn't important, but that really just feels like I am lying to myself. I am considering antidepressants to kill my libido. 
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