How do I respectfully decline when hit up for money?
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How do I respectfully decline when hit up for money?

Some background: I work in a small, private school in a small town in the South.  As you can imagine, most of the population there is very conservative, pro-life etc (not saying I have anything against this, I just want to give accurate info.  This is also important as you'll see later). There is a charity 5K walk that is done a few times a year (many people in the community are involved) and all the donations benefit a local pregnancy crisis center.

As someone who is adamantly pro-choice, I disagree with pregnancy crisis centers for a multitude of reasons, and I will not support them in any way.

Here's the problem : I get asked by my high school students to donate to this walk "for charity" all the time.   How do I respectfully decline when hit up for money?  It's not simple for a number of reasons:

1) I don't want to tell them what I really think of the centers; I'd rather not get into my views on women's health care when they are (probably in their eyes at least) doing a good thing and raising money for charity.  This also could present a delicate issue with parents later if they misinterpret the situation and feel like I'm pushing pro-choice doctrine on their impressionable teens. But I also am not going to just straight up lie, leading to my next point...

2) I don't want to say no and blame it on financial reasons; I will find a way to support a cause I believe in - even if I may be a bit hard up for cash at the time - and I feel like that answer will make me look like a bit of a cheapskate.  Also, being a single (and *gasp* childless!) schoolteacher at the ripe old age of 27 (major sarcasm of course) in a school of wealthy families, I do not want any reason to invite pity.

What should I do?

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