As I write this post, I have five different friends texting me about their respective breakups. Fortunately, I pretty much have a Ph.D in what NOT to do when a relationship ends. I'm not ashamed to admit that I have committed just about every post breakup crime a woman can perform (OK, a little ashamed). I have texted my ex's (both very drunk and very sober) and done so enough in one sitting to make them think I was in the trunk of a strangers car speeding across the border. I have spent hours I will never get back trying to figure out just who owned the feminine finger that clicked "like" on his post about the weather, and yes, I have even lied to my friends, telling them I had plans to go out when really, all I planned to do was drink a bottle of Malbec and sing "our" song like Simon Cowell was in the room.
The bottom line: I know a thing or two about what works and what doesn't when trying to heal a broken heart. Here are twenty-one of my best lessons:
1. People don't "fight" for things in the same way, and breakups often require some "fighting through" to achieve clarity.
2. Just because they are not blowing up your phone, showing up with flowers, sending long emails or otherwise begging to get back with you doesn't mean they don't care or that it all meant "nothing."
3. You should probably sit on any emails/texts for 24 hours before sending. Sit on them forever if they have not responded to several already.
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