girls
"She should have just said no," people say, placing the responsibility firmly on the woman involved -- but why? Why is the responsibility on her to say no instead of on the initiating partner to secure a yes?
condoms
Never did it occur to wonder why it was that I was so often the sole person responsible for insisting on safe sex, why I was positioned repeatedly as the condom police, posed at the entrance to my vagina with a whistle and a handheld stop sign.
rape
babysitting
Why are people so surprised that I was assaulted by a 9-year-old and his little brother?
video games
Apparently in this universe, responding supportively to rape survivors is a "mistake." Way to fail, Penny Arcade.
in

Sep 4, 2013 at 1:00pm | 307 comments

rape culture
So much of women's media is focused on this idea that we can make other people do something: make him want you, make him never look at other women, make him eat his vegetables, make make make.
rape
Making the point that people with jobs in journalism have no business speculating about the truthfulness of rape allegations is well worth losing some steady work over.
rick ross
I’ve danced to songs that glorify the objectification of women and contributed to the YouTube count of many artists who demean women with their words.
hell houses
Despite the date rape, the domestic violence, and the murders -- all serious crimes committed by male characters -- it was the young woman who shouldered the blame for her family's eternal punishment in Hell.
assholes
On the NPR and Daily Mail backlash. And should I try to go on Dr. Phil?
tsa
You are what you wear. More specifically -- you are what other people decide you are based on what you wear.
rape
Dismantling rape culture means holding people responsible for their actions -- even people you love.
christmas music
richard dawkins
Despite the fact that the overall social opinion trends against pedophilia, there are plenty of people out there who think it's possible to classify sexual assault as “mild.”
animal rights
I have lots of problems with PETA. This is just the most recent one.
pax
COME SEE THE PAX MUSEUM OF DIVERSITY! BOGGLE at people's use of ASSISTIVE TECHNOLOGY! Ask whatever questions you’d like of a REAL LIVE GENDER NONCONFORMIST!
sexual assault
I'm an example of what shouldn't happen when a college woman reports a sexual assault.
college
Hey, nothing like trying to make your college campus a better place and getting rape threats for your trouble.
sexual assault
There is a responsibility inherent in belonging to the media, not just to report news and information, but also to do so in a way that benefits society.
pickup artists
Much of the language around surrounds the idea that women put up “token resistance,” encouraging PUAs to not take resistance and requests to stop seriously.
lists
rape
Apparently a local church held a conference to “teach girls to respect themselves” in order to prevent this kind of thing from happening. Because this is totally about self-respect.
in

Sep 5, 2012 at 10:30am | 69 comments