"She should have just said no," people say, placing the responsibility firmly on the woman involved -- but why? Why is the responsibility on her to say no instead of on the initiating partner to secure a yes?
girls
condoms
Never did it occur to wonder why it was that I was so often the sole person responsible for insisting on safe sex, why I was positioned repeatedly as the condom police, posed at the entrance to my vagina with a whistle and a handheld stop sign.
rape culture
So much of women's media is focused on this idea that we can make other people do something: make him want you, make him never look at other women, make him eat his vegetables, make make make.
The Illusion of Personal Responsibility; Women Can't "Make" Men Do Anything, Including Not Rape Them
rape
Making the point that people with jobs in journalism have no business speculating about the truthfulness of rape allegations is well worth losing some steady work over.
rick ross
I’ve danced to songs that glorify the objectification of women and contributed to the YouTube count of many artists who demean women with their words.
assholes
On the NPR and Daily Mail backlash. And should I try to go on Dr. Phil?
christmas music
Prey doesn't get to say no. Not even at Christmas.
Marianne in
Entertainment,
christmas music,
carols,
my feminist polemic,
high nerdery,
literary theory,
textual analysis is my jam,
rape culture,
no means no,
yes means yes,
enthusiastic consent
Nov 29, 2012 at 5:00pm | 166 comments
animal rights
I have lots of problems with PETA. This is just the most recent one.
college
Hey, nothing like trying to make your college campus a better place and getting rape threats for your trouble.
pickup artists
Much of the language around surrounds the idea that women put up “token resistance,” encouraging PUAs to not take resistance and requests to stop seriously.
rape
Apparently a local church held a conference to “teach girls to respect themselves” in order to prevent this kind of thing from happening. Because this is totally about self-respect.
sexual assault
If I never see the words "seduced," "had sex with," "affair," "forced her to have sex," and so on in a headline about a rape case again, it will be too soon.
black women
Commentator Zerlina Maxwell did a brave thing this weekend. She went on Fox News, not exactly a bastion of human rights commentary, and said that if we want to stop rape, we need to educate men on the subject, rather than putting the responsibility on women.
the frisky
I wish and hope and pray that my son won’t grow up to be a rapist.
rape culture
That room was full of “cool” guys, progressives, radicals even. And still they saw the world as an episode of Perry Mason where men accused or convicted of crimes against women and children were innocent, and the truth would come out in the end.
body politics
I have a problem with the idea that the only purpose the “women-only” tent at Occupy Wall Street serves is to be the “safe haven” that Fox News portrays it to be -- a tent where women can be "protected" from sexual assault, as though women should not expect to have their bodies and personal space respected no matter where they are.
domestic abuse
Wait, NO IT ISN’T.
Lesley in
Issues,
domestic abuse,
nobody asks for it,
rape culture,
sexism,
t-shirts,
why am I always writing about t-shirts?
Sep 20, 2011 at 3:00pm | 0 comments
