marriage
I've been married to my husband for 11 years, and I'm currently planning a wedding to my boyfriend, too. Yes, we're polyamorous. No, we're not freaks.
how not to be a dick
While the vast majority of my friends and family were incredibly understanding when I came out as polyamorous, some had questions and criticisms.
polyamory
While I believe that polyamory can work for some people, it did not work for me.
in

Apr 29, 2013 at 11:00am | 292 comments

polyamory
Our life is surprisingly boring, surprisingly simple, surprisingly normal.
it happened to me
social media
Aren’t we non-monogamous partly to avoid cheating and lies?
ihtm contest
I’ve been seeking self-esteem, affection, and some semblance of a family structure through a polyamorous lifestyle.
polyamory
dealbreakers
“We decided to separate last night. But I’ve moved on,” he explained.
dating
Just because I don't want to airbrush our names on a T-shirt and get Emma Stone to star in a biopic about our love doesn't mean that I'm only in it to palm some boob and flee into the underbrush.
polyamory
You’re both ready to try having an open relationship, or exploring polyamory. But what do you actually DO?
polyamory
Maybe all I can really take away from my experience is that you just never know what’s going to stumble into your life and change it completely.
open relationships
I saw signs of her in the apartment, but I dismissed my thoughts until I was told that she (he talked about her as a friend) was out of town for a bit visiting family. I found her absence too convenient.
in

May 21, 2013 at 1:30pm | 96 comments

refinery29
"Polyamorous" is a made-up word (it was first used in the early '90s), but it's not a made-up concept. People across cultures have been engaging in multiple-partner relationships for thousands of years.
open marriage
Perhaps I have this wrong, but I’ve always understood cheating as behaviors outside a relationship conducted without the knowledge and/or consent of your partner.
best friend
For all the discussions we have about romantic monogamy and polyamory and everything in between, I don’t think we talk enough about how those same dynamics translate to friendships.
monogamy
My experience has been yes, but with some pretty significant caveats.
in

Mar 26, 2012 at 5:00pm | 36 comments

open relationships
I'd been wanting to read Tristan Taormino's "Opening Up." But when I found it downloaded on my boyfriend's Kindle, I wasn't happy.
kal penn
breakups