I don't want some dude slamming his junk inside of me for hours.
gender politics
What little I knew about orgasms was culled from the copies of Cosmopolitan I routinely pilfered from my mom, something I’d been doing for quite awhile before I found myself blinking at the Garfield poster on the wall opposite my bed, trying to process what had just taken place.
unpopular opinion
I've never understood this concept that our lovers are supposed to "give" us an orgasm, like a present in a nicely wrapped box, and that if they don't, they're a “bad” lover.
Making a spot that feels totally amazing and then hiding it was kind of a dick move on God's part.
At least one weekend each month, I'm woken up from a kinky midday-nap dream in the best possible way.
For people my age, who grew up sneaking downstairs to watch "Sex and the City" reruns, the girl who has never ever come knows to keep her mouth shut, or risk having a bunch of Liberated Young Women patting her hand and giving her tons of Liberated Young Woman advice.

Sep 5, 2012 at 4:09pm | 155 comments

Sex is my antidepressant when it is awesome.

Apr 17, 2014 at 3:00pm | 137 comments

When I first started having orgasms, I was just so excited to be coming at all that I was never really concerned with quality. Since then, I have become a smidge more sexually entitled.

Mar 14, 2013 at 5:00pm | 119 comments

oral sex
I’ve suffered my whole sexually active life under the imploring words of other women, “But it’s so good, Kat, so, so very good!”
Nobody gives non-binary people sex advice. I pretty much had to make it all up. Straight girls, you can do that too, and as a bonus, I’m going to be nice and let you keep your gender.
female orgasms
I don’t expect to come from casual sex, while I’m sure every dude I have it with does.
I’m a shower-wall beater (and possibly other things) when the stuff is good, I fully admit that.
ask a sex therapist
Asking for what you want in the bedroom seems like it should be so easy, yet many of us struggle with actually opening our mouths and letting the words out.
gym class
If you've had a mini-orgasm while, say, on the sit-up machine, science says you're not the only one.
As soon as I start to feel real good, my brain goes on some self-hating, orgasm-thwarting monologue about how my partner is probably bored out of their mind.

Apr 4, 2013 at 3:00pm | 64 comments

I thought nothing of it until a friend of mine said it was an entity stealing my big O. Now, I’m terrified.
If you are related to me by blood or marriage, this isn't for you. Otherwise, enjoy the details of my real life sex fantasies!
I know all about the first three. Not so much the fourth.
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female orgasmic disorder
Female orgasmic disorder is generally believed to have psychological causes, such as a history of abuse, anxiety, depression and lack of self-esteem. And guilt.