japan
Going out without my husband at this point leaves me teetering precariously between full-on panic and shaky self-doubt.
in

Sep 11, 2014 at 2:00pm | 190 comments

rap
Would it ruin your day if you didn’t shout a racial slur in mixed company?
ferguson
weekend
Apparently almost everyone who was there has a much better memory of a drunken me cussing someone out in French than I do.
race
When a white girl called me that word, I knew I should ignore her, but I couldn't.
in

May 13, 2014 at 12:00pm | 204 comments

race
It’s never about one word, it’s about the intonations that seem to arise when having any interracial exchange.
real history
I'm starting a girl gang and I'm calling it FUSTY LUGGS; who's coming with me?
in

Apr 15, 2014 at 12:30pm | 115 comments

uptalk
A lot of folks are very concerned lately that this habit is ruining our young women by making them sound like air-headed insecure simpletons. I strongly disagree.
in

Feb 25, 2014 at 1:00pm | 263 comments

language
I believe very strongly that language is a living, responsive thing. We are constantly developing news ways of expressing things because we are thinking of new things, conceiving of new possibilities.
in

Nov 25, 2013 at 12:00pm | 311 comments

annoying
Please share your least favorite Internet catchphrases -- you know, terms like "amazeballs." Or the dreaded, godforsaken "selfie."
language
I, like millions and millions of other English speakers both native and non, can generally understand words and phrases that haven't come out of a grammar textbook.
culture
Sometimes I wonder if it's too late to bridge that cultural divide.
dating
I almost included your gyno appointment, but I feel like some dudes would be real into that.
in

May 29, 2013 at 5:00pm | 54 comments

language
Black speak is my first language, too, the tongue I feel most comfortable chatting, even blogging, in.
in

Feb 22, 2013 at 6:00pm | 37 comments

language
While it’s cool to know that being bilingual has scads of smarty-pants benefits, the study overlooks many other things that are awesome about knowing more than one language. But don’t worry -- I’m here to help with five more!
language
gender
This isn’t about saying that men and women don’t exist: it’s about saying that the world is a whole lot bigger than dudes and ladies.
language
Everyone's got a story. Mine just happens to have been written by somebody else.
in

Nov 10, 2011 at 4:09pm | 0 comments

body politics
I was horrified when I visited the xoJane main page, only to find a transmisogynistic slur, a word so hateful that I will not repeat it, not here, not anywhere, not ever, proudly emblazoned across the main page in connection with an interview with the Kardashian sisters.
body politics
I use the word “fat” to describe myself, and not in a humorous way, or a self-deprecating way. I use it because it’s true.