Everyone's furious that Taylor Swift doesn't consider herself a feminist. I say: Leave the girl alone.
feminism
engagement
When I hear another woman going on about her ring, her engagement -- I want to say ‘Stop that! Don’t let on that this stupid bullshit has any real relevance to us!’ Like there is some gender war going on and some women are giving up secrets to the other side.
feminism
When people can’t even engage respectfully with a woman saying she’s harmed by something people in her environment are doing, it’s kind of impossible to hope for any meaningful change.
s.e. smith in
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feminism,
words mean things,
misogyny,
sexism,
eating disorders,
you keep using this word...
Feb 12, 2013 at 11:30am | 276 comments
marriage
Irritating that men get patted on the back for changing their names while women get smacked around the “bad feminist” ring for a while.
rape
The more comments I read on "IHTM: I Was Raped By My Tattoo Artist," the more I knew it needed to be said: If you've been raped, you don't owe anybody else shit.
Marianne in
Issues,
rape,
reporting rape,
take care of yourself,
feminism,
social pressure,
responses to comments
Jan 23, 2013 at 12:00pm | 256 comments
age
Or else I'm just a huge weirdo. OH, NO, WHAT IF I'M BOTH?
feminism
#TellAFeministThankYou is trending on Twitter. But is it a big deal to thank people who don't identify as feminists?
babies
I'm embarrassed to admit to you and to anybody that I'm not sure how I feel about babies at a time when it's maybe most important for me to know.
margaret cho
Feminism debates are blowing up everywhere (including here) of late. So we asked Margaret Cho to kick off her new role as contributor to xoJane by explaining exactly what the label means to her.
feminism
I think people should be free to create the work that they want to make, but "Girls" was a big deal to me, and it was probably a big deal for a lot of you.
facials
My orgasms are a politics-free zone.
kept woman
I never dreamed I would be That Girl staying at home with her man's money footing the bill. But here I am.
capitalism is not your friend
Mayer thinks maternity leave is for chumps, wants to abolish working from home, and seems to have a vision of “equality” that involves women being just like men -- even though they live in a society where this isn’t feasible.
feminism
I'm talking about women's web sites tonight with some women's web site-ers. What should I say?
body image
I promise never to talk about diets again, but I don't think that I'm the only one of us who lives like this.
douchebag feelings
This probably would have been way better if only I'd had a man to help me write it. KIDDING!
feminism
We need to talk about the men who claim to be feminists in public, but treat women like crap in private.
feminism
Every time I post about my nail polish, I feel this frisson of "You are such a silly girl" - as though that's a bad thing to be, not what a "real writer" ought to be writing about. But that's just culturally-ingrained shame talking.
Marianne in
Issues,
feminism,
femme presentation,
femme skills,
learning experience,
makeup,
patriarchy,
yes i have a makeup spreadsheet
Feb 27, 2012 at 11:00am | 141 comments
feminism
When I was growing up, the word bitch was not a nice word.
planes trains and automobiles
There’s something about men in general -- not all men, of course, some are perfectly nice -- and single men in particular on public transit that seems to be a recipe for disaster.
toys
This is probably a big reason I don’t have children of my own: I don’t want to have to share.
politics
It's kind of like when your friends tell you not to bring your kids to their wedding.
Somer Sherwood in
Issues,
politics,
sexism,
feminism,
weddings,
parenting,
kids,
children,
babysitters,
not taking your kids everywhere
Aug 30, 2012 at 6:00pm | 127 comments
