Whatever Steenkamp endured in their relationship before her death was quietly shoved under the carpet, and no one talked about it; just like no one talks about domestic violence in any cases involving “heroes.”
When you quote at length the abuser’s friend’s “side” of the incident, talk about the victim’s college transcripts, or her employment record, you are participating in some good old-fashioned victim blaming.
Collectively, mainstream media reporting has at once discounted Jovan Belcher's actions on account of his mental state and blamed Perkins for staying out too late -- as though Perkins could have brought her murder on herself.
I propose that in the future, instead of putting him on the front page of every website every time he throws a chair through a window or spends a day on the beach screaming at seagulls (seriously, WTF?), we turn a blind eye.
There’s a part of me that believes that Rihanna, as with any woman, has a right to be with whoever she chooses; saying that she can’t, or shouldn’t be, with a partner who she believes is reformed, takes me down an ethical slippery slope that feels far too treacherous to tread.