My psychiatrist told me to leave over and over, because no job was worth this price, and I said no.
Calling out unacceptable antisocial behavior may indeed satisfy the attention-seeking urge among those who perpetrate it, but NOT doing so doesn’t necessarily make that behavior stop.

Aug 11, 2014 at 3:00pm | 329 comments

I don’t know what I’d been expecting to find. Not that.

Mar 24, 2014 at 2:00pm | 317 comments

Recently I went home with a kinky man after our first date. The experience phased in and out of being consensual throughout the night. I distinctly left his apartment feeling violated and I continued to feel violated for several days after.
When your abuser is convinced, and has others convinced, he is a supporter of women’s rights and social justice, the alienation and betrayal feels all the more disquieting.

Sep 17, 2013 at 11:00am | 153 comments

trigger warnings
I don't find trigger warnings particularly useful, but our conversations about them tell me a lot about what we think about trauma survivors.
I remember very clearly, in primary school, repeating the stories and articulating the knowledge that I came from a family broken by abuse.

Jan 18, 2014 at 9:00am | 118 comments

I feel awful. But feeling and doing something aren’t one in the same.
My ex managed to ruin my credit before I ever had any.
Although the circumstances are very different, I have been feeling exactly like that trapped little girl with blood on her spelling test and fear of the unknowns in her heart.
When you are abused, your self worth depends entirely on the approval of your abuser. In the absence of any sort of approval from my mother, I turned to men.

Sep 3, 2013 at 3:00pm | 94 comments

She came out with this bag full of groceries, and told me that the food and milk was for the girls and me to eat over the next three days. I don’t remember a time in my life when I ever felt more grateful.
ihtm contest
John taught me that not every guy was like my husband. It was the push I needed to really see that life could be normal again.
Maria Menounos, who recently opened up about being sexually abused by two doctors, has faced criticism for not reporting the incidents to the authorities. Neither did I.
ihtm contest
What had been a complicated father-daughter relationship became an impossible one.
domestic violence
I don't know when the abuse started because it's not a subject that I ask her about very often, but I'm pretty sure he hit her while she was pregnant. What I do know is that I was just six months old the first time he hit me.
In the seven years of my off-and-on affair with cutting, I've crossed several lines I promised I wouldn't.
It took spending almost $60,000 and being forced to come to terms with one of the hardest truths I've ever had to face, but I never had to go to rehab again.
Most people learn trust as a child from the people raising them, but I learned to go on roller coasters on my own.
"Is this OK?" he asked me. "Do you promise?" That was when I finally stopped it.

Mar 26, 2014 at 2:00pm | 79 comments

family drama
They blamed me for tearing the family apart by calling 911 that night in August.