YOU ARE THE ADVICE COLUMNIST: Do I Have To Endure My In-Laws?

I just have so many trust issues with my new family and am disgusted that they would treat my husband so callously.

Oct 8, 2013 at 6:30pm | Leave a comment

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My sister in law is having her baby shower this Friday and I don't know if I should go.  She invited me but I don't feel really welcome.  The family tends to cause drama and at the very least I won't know a single person there besides the mother to be and my other sister in law.
Now here's the real reason why I don't want to go.  I got married over the summer and my husband's family was so awful I can barely come to terms with it.  It was across the country and a small wedding so most of the family stayed together in a rented house while my husband and I had a beach house a few minutes away.  His family seemed to care more about being on vacation than our wedding.  They showed up for the ceremony and bailed as soon as they finished their cake.  Instead of a loving reception we were totally ignored.  To make things worse, my birthday was a few days after the wedding and it soon became all about my pregnant sister in law.  Every wish we had for my birthday and the wedding was steam rolled into oblivion by his mother.  Who, by the way, announced she was divorcing her husband of 40 years and my husband's father 3 days after our wedding.
I just have so many trust issues with my new family and am disgusted that they would treat my husband so callously.  I don't want another evening of being ignored and talked down to but I also want to be the bigger person here.  I still have nightmares about being ignored on my wedding day so I'm clearly not over it yet.  What should I do?
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