leaning in
I think that a lot of efforts to “empower” women (or whatever group) would be much more impactful if they were turned around on men. Like, I don’t need to be empowered. I need men to stop disempowering me.
in

Jul 28, 2014 at 5:00pm | 72 comments

pets
It’s about common decency, which I think -- in the most Larry David-ish way possible -- does not receive enough thought and attention in our supposedly civilized world.
fat
Fat women of color, women with guts, women with flat butts or flat chests, women with double chins -- these women are rarely represented by anyone, still.
in

Feb 24, 2014 at 3:00pm | 179 comments

travel
The eating on the subway bit is probably my most favorite thing, honestly.
in

Feb 3, 2014 at 5:00pm | 222 comments

pcos
I am, and always have been, absolutely desperate for clear(er) skin. I will literally do just about anything.
in

Jan 24, 2014 at 5:00pm | 178 comments

parents
Being around my mother must somehow trigger some chemical in my brain that deludes me into forgetting my own imperfections and forces me to nitpick at hers.
beyonce
This album is a celebration of the marriage of privilege and intellectual movement that a lot of black women—particularly Southern, Christian black women of this mold, which I am also a part of—do not have access to and are not allowed to attain.
in

Dec 17, 2013 at 12:00pm | 191 comments

work
As new age-y as it sounds, I worked to become the person that I wanted to be and leaving feels a little bit like pulling a thread on an artfully woven sweater—why ruin a perfectly good, well-crafted thing?
shopping
After many years as a seasonal employee, I've developed a keen sense of what actually constitutes good manners while shopping. You probably don't have them. You're rude and annoying and you probably don’t even know it.
childhood
On television, in movies, in books and now with my dolls, black girls were always having to overcome crazy amounts of adversity with a quick wit and an even temper. These fictitious black girls seemed to be models of perfection without the requisite vulnerability to make them human.
in

Nov 18, 2013 at 12:00pm | 229 comments