You have to be able to stomach your own pain and discomfort, in order to fight for your friend, or partner, or parent. Don’t run from them just to make yourself feel better.
A couple of years ago, I started writing both of you letters. Slowly at first, as my health took a gentle downward dive; and then more fervently, at NPO midnights and early surgical mornings.
Often, single parents are described as heroes or martyrs, but for me and many others, it breaks down a hell of a lot differently.