Another part of me thinks she's being immature and if she wanted to fire me, she should have just done it by now instead of icing me out like a mean girl in high school.
It’s more than a little disheartening that a publication’s ethical principles and surviving capitalism’s demands seem to be mutually exclusive.

Jul 29, 2014 at 6:00pm | 23 comments

street harassment
Most of the commenters thought that I should consider myself “lucky” to be street harassed and that I should take it as a compliment because of how unattractive I am.
“You’re dating a girl? That’s weird, because you look like you’d be really good at giving blowjobs.”
leaning in
I think that a lot of efforts to “empower” women (or whatever group) would be much more impactful if they were turned around on men. Like, I don’t need to be empowered. I need men to stop disempowering me.

Jul 28, 2014 at 5:00pm | 70 comments

Men can’t understand the threat a woman might feel from a simple touch.
The first time I wore makeup, I was 17, in college, and being interviewed about a graduate student strike on a local television station.
self defense
In a culture where nearly half the women have experienced violence, a different tack is needed.
ray rice
In addition to the whole “One of our teams is named for a racial slur” thing, the NFL has a culture of sexism bordering on misogyny.

Jul 26, 2014 at 10:00am | 50 comments

birth control
Want to talk about why you don't use contraceptives? Great. But don't make it into a value judgement on those who do.
I have to go through a “coming out” moment in every new relationship to explain my ethnicity.
beach bodies
body image
I told him no. I would not hide from my own body. I would not wear outfits to make my body more “tolerable.”
For me, anti-feminism was a phase in a process of political awakening.
Why couldn’t he just say the word FAT? What was he scared of?
This is definitely NOT how affordable housing incentives are supposed to work.
It seems when you’re in the midst of that “Everything is perfect, I’m perfect, you’re perfect” stage of a relationship, nobody poops.
Adding a member to your family –- yes, even a dog –- is a personal decision and it’s no one’s business why you make the choices you do.
aging gracefully
Had I decided to write full time at 25, I might have been a wunderkind. Now I’m just a writer.
birth control
The EEOC says failing to provide contraceptive coverage in a prescription drug plan may constitute gender and pregnancy discrimination, thus potentially making it what some of us might call "illegal."
eating disorders
I can trace the slow ease into the cycle of starving and bingeing, starving and running, bingeing and running, directly back to church.
Acts of self-naming seem more than reasonable -- they’re self-affirming, somewhat instinctive and protective. They show an ownership of one’s own narrative. They make complete sense to me.