YOU ARE THE ADVICE COLUMNIST: I'm Keeping My Best Friend's Dangerous Secret

Part of me doesn't want to betray her trust , but another part is scared not to in a dangerous situation.

Dec 23, 2013 at 6:30pm | Leave a comment

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I have a secret I've been keeping for my best friend,  and it's been eating away at me.
We're about to spend the holiday together,  along with her siblings and mom, who's made no secret of wanting my friend's longtime boyfriend to propose this year.  But here's the problem:  she's being physically abused, and almost no one knows.
A couple months ago, we were having  a small, drunken get together,  and they started bickering.  Next thing I know,  he had put her against the wall, choked, and punched her in front of the entire party. If that's what he does publicly,  I'm terrified of what is happening to her at home.
She won't communicate much about it. She refused to call the police,  and would only say "It's gotten better than it used to be. Leave it alone. "
I know all I can really do is be there to support her, but it breaks my heart not to step in. What can I do? Should I tell her family, who I know would be horrified if they knew? Part of me doesn't want to betray her trust , but another part is scared not to in a dangerous situation. I can't imagine spending Christmas pretending everything is ok...

How can she help her friend? Can she keep this a secret? Let her know in the comments.

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