YOU ARE THE ADVICE COLUMNIST: I Don't Know How To Have A Relationship

I don't know what I should do, and I have NO idea how I can stop acting like this. I know this sort of behavior isn't healthy.

Dec 5, 2013 at 6:30pm | Leave a comment

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I'm a 22 year-old woman, and I think my problem is related to my generation: I don't know how to have relationships anymore. I had one serious boyfriend on-and-off through high school, and dated a few guys casually here and there when we weren't together, so I really wanted the chance to have fun and hook up in college. And hook up I did! I had a lot of fun being single for a few years, but whenever I started having feelings for a guy I was hooking up with, I realized I had NO idea how to transition it into a relationship.
Now, I've been hooking up with this guy for a few months now, purely physical. I'd love to transition this into something more, but I just don't know how. I guess I've just conditioned myself to assume that guys purely want me for sex. I'm afraid of trying to push things into relationships for fear of being the clingy crazy girl. Honestly, this guy is a really great person, and I feel like I've shot myself in the foot by making him see me like this. I don't know what I should do, and I have NO idea how I can stop acting like this. I know this sort of behavior isn't healthy.

How do you make the transition to relationships? Are you just as confused? Let's talk about it in the comments below.

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