You Are The Advice Columnist: How Do I Get My Boyfriend To Initiate Sex?

How do I talk to him about this?
Publish date:
April 9, 2014
boyfriends, You Are The Advice Columnist

My boyfriend and I have been happily together for almost three years. But lately I just feel like he is not that into me (I hate how cliche this sounds). I know he is not cheating on me. The frustrating thing is that we've talked about this: I've expressed to him that I want him to be a little more aggressive and that I'm tired of feeling like I always initiate sex, and he always seems open to the idea and to be really listening to what I'm saying, but then he never really acts on what we talk about. I'm getting really frustrated and it is really starting to hurt my feelings that he doesn't seem to understand how important sex and intimacy are to me within a relationship. I REALLY don't want to break up with him, because when we DO have sex, it's amazing. And besides that, he is ALL of the important things I look for in a guy: funny, sweet, kind, and (really importantly) we have the same values and politics. But how do I get it through to him that the lack of sexual encounters he initiates is starting to bum me out? Is this just a me thing that I have to get over? Do you have any advice for how to do that? I would really appreciate your opinions, I have a serious lack of female friendships right now and I'm feeling at a loss to move past this.

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