I'M NOT GAY: Why I've Had To "In" Myself To My Family

Somewhere in my parent's house there's probably a dusty banner emblazoned with the words "Happy Coming Out Day!"
Publish date:
January 16, 2013
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I know, I'm terribly immature, and that's not how you spell vagina.

It started, I think, at university. No, I'm wrong, it started on a family holiday. I was 17 and sharing a hotel room with my older sister Becca talking about -- I THOUGHT -- our recently deceased house rabbit Bunji.

“There will only ever be one man in my life, and that's Bunj,” I said.

Granted it was rather a sad attempt at a joke, but it was a joke. A few days later Becca informed me that she was honoured I had talked to her and that she and Mum had always had their suspicions and they were fine with it.

Fine with what? Somehow a conversation about a dead pet had been interpreted by my sister as me coming out as gay. I mean I like a tortured metaphor as much as the next gay but I tend not to be quite so opaque.

This isn't a re-hashing of the brilliant film "But I'm a Cheerleader!" (my mum rented it as soon as it was released -- I should have known there were suspicions) in which I realise everyone was right and the only one with a dud gaydar is me. I knew from an early age that I was straight and that's OK.

Fortunately my family were always very supportive. I am extremely lucky that somewhere in my parent's house there's probably a dusty banner emblazoned with the words "Happy Coming Out Day!"

Ashley has talked about people making assumptions about his sexuality before, due to his preference for a “pot of glitter over a pint of bitter.” I have met men who perhaps fall under the metrosexual genre and struggled to convince women of their desires. I had an intern once who I was convinced was gay only for him to be very vocal about the all the lady-crushes he had.

But I have never met another woman who has repeatedly been informed she's gay.

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