I have a hunch that the stamps in my passport have contributed most of my insights, and prompted most of my questions.
The good news? I think I'm finally starting to get the hang of online dating. I'm over the awkwardness (I think) and I've started taking charge and owning this shit. The bad news? I'm immersed in the world of online dating. But I'm still smiling. See?
Anyway, let's get to it. Here's what I learned last week!
1) So, I Actually Like OK Cupid...
(Whoa. I never thought I'd say that.) In comparison to Match, it seems as if OK Cupid has a much more diverse selection of the types of men I am typically attracted to: young, hip, artistic, creative, brooding, tortured types. (I know, I know -- my "type" hasn't fared well for me in the past, but I'm hopeful!) And you all will be happy to know that the types of White men that are reaching out to me on OKC are actually getting some serious play. Why? Because they're much more Chris Helmsworth and much less Howard Wolowitz, who best describes those all over me on Match.
2) ...But ItKeeps Matching Me With Bisexuals. WTF?
With that said, Quiver is about that bullshit and Staff Robot can Chew. This. Ass. I'm not on OKC for shits and giggles; I'd really like to meet my next soul mate. (What does that word even mean?!) I don't even know what to say here -- what have I listed in my profile that makes the algorithm think that I'd enjoy being matched with a bisexual man? (Is it because I'm fluent in the Queen's English? WERQ BITCH!) I've clearly specified that I'm interested in Long-Term Dating with Guys Looking for Girls, not Guys Looking for Girls and Guys. What in the actual fuck? P. S. Staff Robot -- I like my men straight as an arrow.
3) So, About Writing The Initial Message.
I'm sad to report that I haven't been having the best of luck with men that I write first. Maybe I'm not good at gauging who would (should?) be into me, but the men that I find myself attracted to aren't necessarily attracted to me. I know it's a gamble and a numbers game, but for crying out loud -- is there some sort of way to know when I can expect a message back? I wouldn't be so stumped if I weren't feeling so unwittingly disconnected from reality. Someone once told me that men like the chase and to hunt -- am I depriving them of that by reaching out first? Seriously, what gives?
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