race
When a white woman calls me "girl" or "girlfriend," she reminds me that my racial experience can be co-opted.
race
White people, could you please stop flipping out when the topic of white privilege comes up?
rape
Rape has never been about seduction. It has always been and will always be about power.
twitter
Being a black woman is great. But being a black woman on social media can be a pain in the ass.
adoption
A black woman pulled me aside to tell me what other black women think when they see a white woman with a black baby.
social media
Here again, a black woman speaks her mind, especially on Twitter, and she’s demonized.
race
Matt generously introduced me to his grandparents and other relatives as his “friend.”
in

Mar 27, 2014 at 2:00pm | 192 comments

issues
The Legacy Workout is a call for self-care and collaboration.
hair
I will never look at that brown child with the white mom and make assumptions again.
in

Mar 10, 2014 at 12:00pm | 150 comments

african
It’s in the way I hear some of my older relatives refer to African Americans, criticizing them and calling them “blacks,” as if they are not black themselves.
race
I feel you, Steve McQueen. I wouldn’t have clapped for him either.
adoption
My birthmother, a heroin addict, was pregnant when she was sentenced for drug-related crimes, and I lived with her in prison for my first year.
race
My self-esteem saving grace was that I’d come home from school and be surrounded by women with curves.
adoption
If you call out adoption practices, or that a whole hell of a lot of people out there are racist, you become an ungrateful traitor to the white people who raised you.
afro
He’s tried telling kids, "Hey, you know, I'm not a petting zoo.” Nothing deters them from trying.
in

Feb 24, 2014 at 12:00pm | 446 comments

friendship
One of Angela's last texts to me said, "I love you so much Alexis. Now go out there and be funny."
workplace
What could a white female COO whose net worth is more than $1 billion tell a black female writer like me about how to succeed professionally? Fortunately there's a new book that picks up where 'Lean In' left off.
race
I can’t undo an experience that left an indelible mark on my racial psyche.
in

Feb 7, 2014 at 10:00am | 803 comments

yoga
I was completely unable to focus on my practice, instead feeling hyper-aware of my skinny white girl body.
in

Jan 28, 2014 at 3:00pm | 3423 comments

clutch
In spite of empirical data proving African-American fathers are just as involved with their children as other dads—whether they live with them or not—the myth that Black fathers are derelict in their duty persists.
mybrownbaby
When we toasted, I made sure they understood—really understood—what our fancy dinner date was all about.
race
How do we honor greatness? How do we remember and respect the leaders who have made so much possible?
in

Jan 20, 2014 at 11:00am | 14 comments