No matter what I do, or how mindful I am about my eating and exercise habits (without pushing myself into unhealthy habits), the numbers keep crawling upward.

Sep 2, 2013 at 3:00pm | 396 comments

I would know, since I'm definitely not my mother's.
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My story is about what I went through, trying and failing to protect her and the tragic inaction by police, social workers and the family court system that created a nightmare I never thought we’d escape.
I remember how violated I felt as a teenager when I found out that my mother read my diary. There are some things that should be sacred, that are better off left alone.

Dec 26, 2012 at 1:30pm | 169 comments

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Free life lesson: Don't get stoned at boarding school and tell everyone.
I made the decision to cut off all contact with my mother.
I would get a boyfriend, and she would say, simply by eyeing the dude’s Facebook page, “He’s not right for you.”
One woman brought me a coloring book full of vaginas, of all shapes and sizes; resplendent in their diversity.
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I thought I found a place to feel like a good mom, but boy, was I wrong.
I can honestly say that I’ve never wished that I’d been born a different race. It was only the illusive magic of beauty I wanted, beauty like my mother proudly possessed, the kind of physical aesthetic that transcended and bewitched.
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MySpace was the social media site of the time, and I thought maybe she had one. I began one evening to look for all the 16-year-old Nicoles in a 50 mile radius of where I was from
Seeing my mother struggle with parenthood makes me wonder if history will repeat itself.
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I would never know my mother. What I mean is I would never really know her as I would if she had lived and grayed and grew to view me as an equal.
I see her slowing a bit, looking less motherly and more matronly, and I realize mother and mortality are not terms I’ve ever truly considered together.

Jun 27, 2013 at 12:30pm | 70 comments

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She killed herself in 2008, but I think she would have done it a lot sooner, were it not for her unabashed love for me.
In an effort to help my fellow single mothers out, I decided to come up with a list of all the wonderful things that would make everyday life a thousand times easier. Here are they are, in no particular order.
I’ve never had a dad. And that is just fine with me, because the dad I could have had is one I would never, ever want.
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As a parent, how do you stand idly by as your child falters, when all you want to do is set them up for success? How (when, where?) do you draw the line?
My boyfriend and I would go to our hotel early and order Pizza Hut, trying to come up with excuses to get out of seeing Betty the next day.