friendship
OK, so I watched the L word, love JD Samson, and subscribe to both Bitch and BUST Magazines. That doesn't mean I want to have sex with women.
gay
Growing up to be a lesbian seemed like something that just didn't happen to regular people, like growing up to be a fairy princess.
bisexuality
Gay magazine The Advocate did a write-up of the 15 gayest cities in America, and people are piiiissed -- mostly because its criteria rely on a very specific stereotype of LGBT person. Seriously, I refuse to believe the Whole Foods in Tacoma, Washington makes it a gay mecca.
gay and lesbian
I was in my late 20s -- and married to a man -- when I fell for a woman and realized that, oops, I was actually a lesbian.