An obsession with everyone’s online goings-on — to the point where you neglect what’s happening in your own life, right in front of you — can fuel feelings of isolation and self-doubt as you wonder if other people are better at their jobs, better-liked, or otherwise moving forward more quickly than you.
It’s not I’m not that into dressing up, or I don’t know how to put an outfit together. It’s just that most days, I would rather hold on to a few more precious minutes of sleep, than wake up earlier, put together a look, and do my own hair and makeup.
Unless you work at a company dedicated to the crushing of dreams and suppression of fun, you probably have an office holiday party coming up this month. You've already got your outfit picked out, but what about your behavior?
I had change the way I think about my salary and savings. Though I earn several thousand dollars each month, I now know that I don’t get to automatically spend it all, like I would have when I was in my teens or early 20s and had no debt or living expenses.
At this stage of the game, I’m a pretty good idea launcher, but it’s definitely been an acquired skill. In my twenties and thirties, I often procrastinated, stewed, second-guessed myself or overly polished a concept, sometimes so much so that I totally missed the moment of opportunity.
We spoke with Tara Sophia Mohr, a career coach whose 10 Rules for Brilliant Women is pretty much the rulebook, when it comes to getting ahead. She dished the 10 things you're probably saying all the time, that are working against you.