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I want everyone to have this phone number: 1−800−799−7233. The National Domestic Violence Hotline has trained advocates available 24/7 to offer advice and support to abuse survivors, allies, and abusers who want to change. They were there for me so many times and were a big part of getting me out of an abusive situation, and I can't say enough about those patient, non-judgmental, understanding, tireless, caring, sweet, sharp women on the end of that phone line.
Now, take a look at this reader's question, clap your hands for her for getting out when she did, and leave a comment to help her continue building the best life possible for herself.
What else do you wish I had told her? What do you want to say to her? Have you, like me, ever hidden the fact that you were in an abusive relationship? Tell this excellent reader anything you think might help or talk about your own related experiences.
Now for the update you have been asking for:
You can always text me for advice at 917-239-2891 at any hour of the day, any day of the week and you can always, always, always, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline.