YOU ARE THE ADVICE COLUMNIST: How Do I Tell My Husband I'm Attracted To Women?

I just don't know what to do with this wandering fantasy I have.
Publish date:
July 3, 2013

I am in love with my husband. I recognize that he is the love of my life and I don't want to be married to anyone else. HOWEVER, I find myself extremely attracted to other people. A lot. Especially girls, but guys, too. I think that if I hadn't met my husband so early on in my life and had more time to explore my sexuality, I wouldn't identify myself as strictly straight. I feel like I have the capability to be attracted to anyone, of any gender. I just love so many different bodies and personalities that I can't even designate a "type" to my preferences.

Anyway, I know my husband has had his share of fantasies, but I also know he never wants to step outside of a monogamous relationship. He has stated over and over that I am the only one for him.

I don't want to leave him, ever. I lost my virginity to him. We fell in love young and married young. He is my best friend and one true love and I always want him in my life.

I just don't know what to do with this wandering fantasy I have, where I am allowed to explore my sexuality and try new things with other people. What does it mean? What do I do with it?

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