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"How can I communicate to this awesome feminist girlfriend that I love blowjobs?"

Jun 25, 2013 at 6:30pm | Leave a comment

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There's a girl I've been seeing. It's the first girl I've dated since my previous relationship (which was also my longest) ended. I really like her. Like, if I play my cards right, she could be someone I spend the rest of my life with. Thus, I'm taking it very slow and careful as far as doing anything physical. 
We date. We flirt. We clearly like each other and there is no "friendzone". The only problem is, there's no kissing, heavy petting, or sex. I think I'm nervous to move forward cuz she's a feminist. 
I'm a big supporter of feminism. I think I'm the perfect example of a man seeing the benefits of a feminist girlfriend. But this is my first feminist girlfriend and I don't know how I should be sexually. 
Normally, I'm very sexual. I think the bedroom is where the best stuff happens in a relationship because of the communication, acceptance, omissions of judgment, and fun to be had. But I'm nervous my new feminist girlfriend is a prude. 
I can't have a relationship without a strong sex life. So how can I communicate to this awesome feminist girlfriend, that I love blowjobs? That I don't mind reciprocating if she wants me to? That I enjoy ejaculating on a girl (in the least degrading way possible)? That I like it a bit rough, both ways, but more her roughing me up? How can I explain I used to be a Dom? 
We're great together, but I'm nervous about the sex life. Advice is much appreciated. 
Bob
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