In Defense Of The Sorority Girl

Come on Delta Gamma sisters, we're better than this.
Publish date:
April 22, 2013

There is an article on Buzzfeed, “Meet the Craziest Sorority Girl in The World,” that keeps popping up on my Facebook, with dozens of likes and shares.

Then Gawker picked it up, giving it the headline, “The Most Deranged Sorority Girl Email You Will Ever Read."

I'm in a sorority. I knew I had to check this out.

Where do I even start? For those of who don’t have the leisure time to read this girl’s letter, she is basically reprimanding her sorority chapter for not fully participating in Greek Week, particularly not getting involved with their Sigma Nu brother fraternity.

A few sample quotes:

-- “I've been getting texts on texts about people LITERALLY being so fucking AWKWARD and so fucking BORING.”

-- “Newsflash you stupid cocks: FRATS DON'T LIKE BORING SORORITIES. Oh wait, DOUBLE FUCKING NEWSFLASH: SIGMA NU IS NOT GOING TO WANT TO HANG OUT WITH US IF WE FUCKING SUCK, which by the way in case you're an idiot and need it spelled out for you, WE FUCKING SUCK SO FAR.”

She reminds me of Regina George, but not even Regina George would leave an email trail where she defames and bullies other girls.

Come on Delta Gamma sisters, we're better than this. When one of this sorority girl’s sisters decided to send this to Buzzfeed, she damaged her chapter’s reputation, Delta Gamma’s reputation and according to my informal survey of frat guys -- the reputation of all college women.

It’s frustrating that one girl can influence how people can view a whole sex or sorority. In the last hour boys at my school have jokingly told me, “You sound crazy. You sound like a DG” and “I bet this is what you guys do in your sorority meetings.”

Really? That’s what guys think we do in our sorority meetings? At least at my small college of about 1,400 students we definitely do not say things like, “I will fucking cunt punt the next person I hear about doing something like that, and I don't give a fuck if you SOR me, I WILL FUCKING ASSAULT YOU.”

I suppose you have to give this girl some credit, she is pretty impressive in the sheer variety of her expletive insults. And while her anger is amusing, I am sure this was pretty horrifying for the whole chapter to read.

On top of that, there were definitely other avenues (such as telling your Sorority Chapter Advisor or Delta Gamma Executive Offices) the chapter could have taken instead of sending this to media sites, for the whole Internet to sneer and mock.

Now that I am done explaining why I want to laugh, and then cry, then punch my computer, then start laughing again at what a bad idea this email was, I actually feel like it's time to defend my sorority and sororities in general. I am about to graduate college now, but during my four years I held a couple sorority positions -- one being Social Standards, where I dealt with the overall chapter morals and safety. It was during my time in this position that my own beliefs and moral values were tested. I had to make tough decisions regarding members of my sorority, in the end, trying to create a better sisterhood.

I can only imagine the problems this sorority was facing before this email was seen by millions. Now that it’s out, they have to pick up the pieces and I bet you Delta Gamma Executive Offices will make sure of that, as they should.

When I see people lash out like this Delta Gamma girl did, I can’t help but wonder about the culture that could have led to the email. What is happening to inspire her to tear down women who are supposed to be her support system and sisters?

When Buzzfeed claims that all members of sororities and fraternities “are relatively insane,” it honestly makes me very sad. It makes me sorry that whoever wrote that article is ignorant to what wonderful things sororities and fraternities have to offer.

Part of the confidence I have in myself now is because of the female support I have gotten while being in a sorority. I am constantly reminded at every chapter meeting by what women can do -- what immense power they have if they choose to use it. One of my sorority sisters is going off to Teach For America and another one is getting her PHD at a top university.

These are not your ordinary women, and Delta Gamma has brought that out in all of us. Through organizing sorority events, raising money for our philanthropic efforts and coming together to create strong friendships, I have learned more about my work ethic, personal beliefs and inner strength. I could not be the empowered woman I am today if it weren’t for my sorority sisters. So while this Delta Gamma from University of Maryland’s email gets passed around the Internet, I hope people realize that it has nothing to do with women, Delta Gamma or sorority women in general.

Maybe it's hard for anyone who's never experienced Greek life to understand the incredibly positive effects of a sisterhood system which encourages women supporting women in a way unlike anything I've ever experienced before in my life.

More important, maybe it's time to stop seeing this concept as "insane."