My Perfect Outfit Has Little to Do with How I Look and Everything to Do with How I Feel

Compliments are nice, but comfort is nicer.
Publish date:
October 27, 2016
trends, personal style, outfits, comfort

I can’t pinpoint the exact moment in time when my obsession with clothes began, but I can say with certainty that I started young. Even as a kid playing Barbie with my younger sister, I’d spend the majority of our playtime carefully styling each doll's outfit (and hair) until I was satisfied. This fascination with putting outfits together has definitely translated into adulthood as I thoroughly enjoy brainstorming different looks not only for myself, but for some of my friends as well.

What is the perfect outfit, though? Is it something you might see on the runway or in street-style snaps? It could be, I guess, but for me, the answer is all in how the outfit makes me feel.

The perfect outfit, in my opinion, is something that I love to wear because it makes me feel comfortable and confident. There was a long span of my life that I was very uncomfortable with my body. There was not as strong of a call for body diversity and acceptance as there is today, and there were certainly far fewer clothing options available to me. Beyond that, there were a lot of external and internal factors I had to work through to be first comfortable, then confident in how I look.

Overall, I’m pretty confident now as a general rule, but there is definitely a distinguishable boost in my confidence when I’m wearing my perfect outfit.

I have a few “perfect” outfits, and one thing I’ve noticed is that I’m most comfortable and confident when I’m wearing fun layers, a flouncy skirt, and accentuating my waist. All of these elements put together make me feel great because they accentuate the areas of my body that I love the most (I especially love the curve of my waist and hips) and just make me feel pretty. I’m also a fan of anything that shows off my shoulders.

My outfits aren’t always “on trend” either, and that’s OK! I definitely love to check out how other people style themselves or how they make trends work for their bodies, but I don’t feel like you have to be wearing something specific to look and feel good. One of my best friends feels the most confident in a T-shirt and jeans, and she looks great in that because you can tell she feels good.

Style is unique to each person; what works for me or makes me feel great might not be for someone else. To me, the perfect outfit isn’t about how many compliments I get (although those are always nice right?). It’s about what makes me happy.

What is your perfect outfit? I’d love to see your favorite looks down in the comment thread if you have pictures!