Singer/Songwriter Mary Lambert On The Music Video That Has All the xoJane Eds Crying

"I’ve never seen a relationship like mine accurately portrayed in a music video."
Publish date:
August 28, 2013
music, mary lambert, songs, music videos

After seeing Mary Lambert perform with Macklemore and Ryan Lewis at the VMAs Sunday night, we came across the video for her newly released single "She Keeps Me Warm." After collectively SQUEEing for approximately an hour, we reached out to Mary for a few words.

I spent two years thinking about making this video and why it was important and necessary.

I never expected to hear men AND women singing the lyrics, “She keeps me warm” right along with me. I thought girls would feel weird about the pronoun of “she” and I certainly didn’t want to alienate an audience. But you didn’t care. Nobody cared about a fucking pronoun.

You let me sing about my girl across the country and supported me and cried with me and laughed with me. You cared about love. BECAUSE THAT’S WHAT IT’S ALWAYS BEEN ABOUT.

This music video is about love and it’s about visibility. I could be wrong, but I’ve never seen a relationship like mine accurately portrayed in a music video. I’ve seen women rolling around in lingerie, bisexual love triangles, women cheating on their boyfriends with a girl -- definitely.

So this is where I need to say one thing explicitly: gay relationships are not, nor have ever, been a novelty. My love is valid, equal, and beautiful. With this video, my hope is that you think of the first time you fell in love with that one person. The person you were so terrified to hold hands with. You daydreamed about them, wrote letters you might never give to them, had to know anything and everything about them, and couldn’t believe that they actually liked you back.

Maybe it was a time when you were less jaded, or maybe you had your defenses up and they slipped the rug underneath you when you weren’t expecting it. Whatever it was in those moments, it was incredible. It was easy. It was nervous glances and sweaty palms.

My intention is not a political one, although gay relationships are inherently political whether we want them to be or not; My intention was to make a love story. I hope you fall in love with this and share it with all of your loves.