Caitlin's Browser History: Do You Feel Like Shit?

There's a website for that.
Publish date:
September 13, 2016
self care, Self Care For Everyone, websites

Two years ago, when I first went to SXSW, I impulsively followed roughly 546 journalists, developers, and other tech people on Twitter while on the plane to Austin because I wanted to feel informed. I had also registered for about a million different events with my real email address, which has been a plague on my inbox ever since. (Moral of that story: Make up burner email addresses and Twitter lists for specific events.)

I was pretty sure I had purged my Twitter of most of those follows (because, frankly, I could not care less about infosec or programmatic ad buying), but every once and a while, some random bit of interesting tech will bubble up onto my timeline — which is, I'm pretty sure, how I found You Feel Like Shit.

Just what I needed to see while hungover and sweating.

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Created by Jace Harr, You Feel Like Shit is "meant to be an interactive flow chart for people who struggle with self care, executive dysfunction, and/or who have trouble reading internal signals." Despite the fact that I like to think I take good care of myself, sometimes that describes me. You know when you just...feel like shit but don't know why? And then, three hours later, you remember you slept badly last night and are probably kind of dehydrated, and also your room is a little grody, and it's low-level stressing you out? You Feel Like Shit is that, minus the three hours of puzzling out why you're feeling like you've been scraped off the bottom of a shoe.

I know that for some people, things like these (or the entire idea of "self-care") can seem pandering or infantilizing — after all, the thinking goes, shouldn't we all be able to remember to feed ourselves? But I think that shows a distinct lack of empathy. I work hard, I handle my anxiety, and every once and a while I need a nudge to be kind to myself, and that's totally OK.