I basically called my mom for help. Except when I say mom, I mean an esthetician.
It's been a while since I've continued seeing someone past one or two dates—has a lot changed in dudes' personal care over the last several years? I've been seeing a pretty awesome guy quite regularly for a few weeks, and I am flabbergasted over the completely grown-up experience that is the act of entering his bathroom.
Aside from the fact that it's immaculate, larger-than-average for a Brooklyn apartment, and nicely organized, he displays—and uses—a really well-curated selection of grooming products. Instead of a bar of soap, some Axe antiperspirant and a bottle of Curve left over from high school—which is what I assume magically materializes in the bathrooms of all straight men under 40 right after they move in—I was pleasantly surprised to find thoughtfully considered non-drugstore products I'd totally use myself.
The first thing I spotted was a Kiehl's duo on his sink: Skin Rescuer and Facial Fuel Energizing Face Wash. The former is a light moisturizer that addresses various effects of stress on skin: irritation, signs of aging, etc. A wise choice for anyone living in a fast-paced city! The latter is a caffeinated, protective cleanser that's "for men"—it's apparently a great pre-shave prep—but I don't see any reason for me to not use it when I'm sleeping over at his place like the secular trollop I am.
On a shelf above his unrealistically pristine toilet is a tin of tiny cologne bottles from The Motley, a small but mighty Los Angeles-based retailer selling sophisticated and lesser-known grooming products, including their own fragrances. My favorite is Atlas, a blend of green mandarin, bergamot, black pepper, cardamom, clove, cedar, oakmoss, leather and amber musk. It's definitely dudely, but I wouldn't put it past myself to dab a little on.
He also has a fancy-looking beard conditioning oil, which I haven't figured out how to use on myself yet. Ohhhhhh, but I will. After all, it's just a blend of skin- and hair-friendly oils like jojoba and vitamin E. I'll probably use it as a moisturizer when I use up his Kiehl's lotion.
The only thing I kind of object to: his Tom's toothpaste. Gimme fluoride! But I can look past this choice if only because he put out a bamboo toothbrush for me to use when I stay at his place.
So, as I hand over this Open Thread to The Powers That Comment, I ask those of you who spend time in or a share a dude-occupied bathroom:
- Have you noticed that guys are getting hip to skincare and whatnot?
- Do you ever use your S.O.'s/brother's/guy friend's products?
- Do you ever buy "men's" products for yourself? (Y'all, I recently learned that there are Bounce For Men dryer sheets: "Our first laundry product formulated to complement your inherent manpower." WHAT EVEN?)
- And, as usual, run wild and free with your beauty talk.