4 Ways Your Relationship Is Messing With Your Skin

Love can be cruel. Don't let it be hard on your face, too.
Publish date:
February 1, 2015
boscia, breakouts, Mario Badescu, relationships, skin care, breakout prevention

Sure, love is a many splendored thing. But let's face it: Romance can also do a real number on your skin.

The following are some of the ways even the dreamiest of relationships can adversely affect your skin, and what you can do about it.

Unprotected Cuddling

I hate to break it to you, but your post-coital spoon sesh might be to blame for those breakouts. Whether your partner is blemish-prone or not, smushing your face up against another person’s skin will inevitably expose you to oils. Add a case of the night sweats, and you’ve got yourself a guaranteed mess.

I would never suggest you go cold turkey on the cuddles, but you can take some precautions to keep the zits at bay. First of all, make sure your sheets and blankets are always clean--especially your pillowcase. Second, keep the room you sleep in cool to keep the sweating to a minimum.

You can also hop in the shower (a fun activity for two!) to wash off the day’s grime before climbing into bed together. Adjust your sleep positions so that your face, or other breakout prone areas like your back or chest, isn’t mashed up against your partner. If all else fails, and you’re particularly desperate, there's always the Ricky and Lucy method.


Like any red-blooded American woman, I whole-heartedly love a good makeout. But just like the cuddling conundrum, you’re exposing your delicate lady skin to the balance of someone else’s mug, and it can lead to irritation and breakouts.

If making out in a ski mask is not your thing, just make sure you’re washing your face regularly and thoroughly. If your partner’s skin is too oily for yours, gently suggest a good oil-reducing cleanser. I highly suggest this line from Kiehl’s. Also helpful: a good stash of face wipes in your overnight bag for post-sexy time, just in case. (Last year, my boyfriend bought me a year’s supply of my favorite face wipes and it was the most romantic thing ever, for real.)

The Stubble Situation

If your partner is of the bearded variety, stubble and facial hair may rough you up, leaving your face red, tender, and more vulnerable to breakouts.

Encourage your partner to use moisturizers or beard balms to keep those hairs gentle. Men should be shampooing and conditioning their beards once they’re long enough to keep them from getting gross anyway.

Make sure you wear plenty of moisturizer to protect your skin. Use calming products to soothe any redness that may come as a result from face-to-beard action. I suggest Mario Badescu Rose Hips Mask or the Boscia Cool Blue Calming Mask.

Over time, your skin will grow accustomed to the beard action and the irritation will wane.

A Brave New World of Products and Irritants

If you’re spending a lot of time at a new bed buddy’s house, you can be exposed to all sorts of products and ingredients you aren’t normally. Surprise irritants like laundry detergent, different face products, toothpaste, or even just more air conditioning can cause rashes, breakouts and blemishes. Do some investigative work and then discuss the issue with your partner.

Relationships can have their challenges, but don’t let skin problems become one of them.

  • Have any of your relationships affected your skin?
  • Are you a big spoon or a little spoon?
  • Just for fun, what’s the most romantic thing anyone’s done for you? Tell me! I love love.