Before I was diagnosed, someone who thought she was being supportive said to me, "Don't worry. Pretty people don't get MS."
I prefer the word "victim" because it places the focus back where it belongs: on the f*cking rapist who turned me into a victim by raping me.
We need to stop letting the victim label seep into our psyches and become a part of our identity.
So I have some baggage – am I a ruined woman?