As a little geekling I learned to love enthusiastic, caring dudes through cartoons, TV shows, video games, movies, and books.
Getting married was neat and all, but it's just never fully taken as a big date to remember. In fact, I often forget it entirely.
Lots of dudes seem to think that there's no higher compliment to pay a lady than to tell her they like the novel she's reading. Are they being friendly, or are they being freaking obnoxious?