I realized that this costume was more or less the embodiment of that side of himself I had been so afraid of. It was the part that I didn’t know, and that I didn’t want to know.
The supposed “ban” on drag is not really about drag at all. It’s about serving ALL members of the LGBTQIA community and not forcing people to endure being triggered in a space meant for celebrating.
I eventually realized, while reading papers about how women should be taken seriously for their ideas and not just their looks, that discounting femininity was part of The Patriarchy too.