A particular proposal has just been put to me and I'm pretty sure the xojane community are the only people I trust with this.
A friendly casual sex buddy wants to pay me for said sex.
I met this guy through friends just over a year ago. We slept together quite soon after and since neither of us were looking for anything serious we would get together, purely for sex, every now and then. We've actually only slept together a handful of times over the last year as I don't always make myself available and I think he was perhaps trying to avoid it becoming serious.
Tonight we had sex for the first time in at least 6 months and right in the middle of it all he asked if I'd ever considered getting paid for this.
Even though I've never done anything like this before my first reaction was, Well fuck, why not?
I'm single and a solo parent and the sex is pretty good so I do stand to benefit from this arrangement. Any hint of romantic feelings I may have had for the guy faded a long time ago so I'm not worried about getting attached or confused about my feelings.
So, my questions are, what might be the pitfalls of this arrangement? Am I being naive? If I do decide to go through with it (he's suggesting something weekly) what are some good ground rules? And most importantly, What should I expect to get paid?!Got a burning question? Email firstname.lastname@example.org and we will hand-feed your questions to our brilliant commenters.