YOU ARE THE ADVICE COLUMNIST: My Boyfriend, The Drunk

How do we manage if wine features heavily in our lifestyles, so my trust will be constantly in jeopardy?

Oct 30, 2013 at 6:30pm | Leave a comment

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I'm having a little quandary... The man I am set to spend my life with is a kind, honest, rare-breed of man - BUT (you saw that coming) he has a serious problem controlling himself when drinking.  
If it crosses the line, which is very easy, he loses control and blacks out like a giant lobotomized toddler loose in the the city.  For the most part his friends & family condone/ignore (because it's disarmingly charming to see a tall Brit behave like a puppy on ether) but I worry for the future. 
There was 1 dealbreaking unacceptable night - no cheating, but it has been a stain on our relationship since.  Hard to recover because when he drinks, I just cannot trust him.  He believes we can work through it (grow & build trust) but how do we manage if wine features heavily in our lifestyles, so my trust will be constantly in jeopardy?  

How would you get through this? Would you put up with a drunken partner? Have you? Let her know in the comments, she needs your help!

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