YOU ARE THE ADVICE COLUMNIST: I Am Very Inexperienced

Is there anything I could do to increase my chances of finding someone or is waiting my only option?

Nov 15, 2013 at 6:30pm | Leave a comment

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As embarrassing as it is, I'm basically 20 and have zero experience. I've never experienced just talking to someone. Never held hands with someone, kissed, been on a date, nothing. I feel bad when I come home for breaks and all my friends are giving updates on their love lives and I have nothing to say. Sometimes it borders on jealousy because I wanna experience a relationship outside of friendship or at least know what it feels like to be kissed. I feel worse when I see that people who are considered "less attractive" or "weird" with SO. I don't want to graduate from college with no experience. I think part of my problem is that I don't have any guy friends and I'm scared to put myself out there. I have had guys who expressed interested but they're not the ones I'm attracted which makes me feel like I can't get someone who's actually attractive and not living on the street. I know I know should respect myself more but at this point I'd accept being an occasional hook up if it meant having an attractive guy show some interest in me. Is there anything I could do to increase my chances of finding someone or is waiting my only option?

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