YOU ARE THE ADVICE COLUMNIST: How to Reject Someone Respectfully, Especially If You Need His Work Connections

I want to ice him out in a respectful way b/c I don't want to alienate a potential professional connection.

Nov 7, 2013 at 6:30pm | Leave a comment

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I have a question. So before travelling internationally for about 4 months, I went home to visit friends and family. Before leaving, I went out dancing with an acquaintance...and danced right into his bedroom HEYOOO. We had a fun time and agreed to repeat it again once I was back in the U.S. When I emailed him to check in every once in a while, his answers were sporadic- going weeks at a time with no answer. But as the date of my return neared, he became more active- sending emails after a full month of no contact, liking every photo and status on FB- that sort of passive pursuit.
He blamed his lack of contact on being "busy". But if he was so busy, how did he have time to be on FB, but not send an email?  I assumed his contact was simply to attempt to smooth me over so we can have sex again, but I deserve to be a priority if things were to continue- sexual or otherwise. Since I'm not, I'm not interested. But, we both work in the same, small field- and I want to ice him out in a respectful way b/c I don't want to alienate a potential professional connection.  He blew it  but we are both good at what we do and I want to be able to book gigs, especially if I move back home after returning from abroad.

Help this girl out! How can she let this guy down, without ruining their professional relationship? Let her know in the comments!

 

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