YOU ARE THE ADVICE COLUMNIST: Domme In Distress

My mentality as a Domme tends to be to avoid punishment and doing things that might make him afraid.

Jan 14, 2014 at 6:30pm | Leave a comment

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I've been dating my sub for about a year now, and let's just say him and I have come on some rough times. I thought our relationship was going great, but apparently, he disagreed, and we broke up about a week ago. Well, long story short, it's hard to avoid someone when you live within 2 miles of each other, and soon we were talking again and realizing that neither of us wanted the relationship to end. Eventually, we negotiated a way to still be together. We are now in an open relationship. To be clear, I am happy with this, and I think it would be helpful for him to explore. However, at some point, I proposed that I punish him(he is not a masochist and it would be a real punishment, though consensual), because I felt that he was in the wrong for not addressing his concerns at any point before spontaneously breaking up with me. Is this an acceptable thing to do if he consents to it, or is it unhealthy to have him do things he does not enjoy? My mentality as a Domme tends to be to avoid punishment and doing things that might make him afraid. Though this would not make him happy, I believe that it would be helpful for our long term relationship and reinforce the idea that making impulsive decisions like that does not come without consequences.

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