YOU ARE THE ADVICE COLUMNIST: A Question About Virginity

I just want to get laid.
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I just want to get laid.

I just graduated from college, am approaching my 23rd birthday and I am a virgin.

To me, it's not that big of a deal. I have dated a fair amount in the past and have had sexual experiences with men. I have made men cum and they have made me cum. At this point, it just seems like a technicality. I really don't think much will change in my life once a penis has entered my vagina. 

My issue is that the guys I date think it's a big deal. All of the men I have dated have refused to have sex with me because I was a virgin. Some just wanted it to be special for me and never thought it was the right moment. Others were completely freaked out about it and didn't want the "responsibility" of being my first.

I just want to get laid. Any advice on how to deal with guys reactions to my virginity?  Do I just have to wait around to find a guy who's cool with it? Can I just stop telling them? Is that dishonest?

What can she do to get rid of her virginity? Do you think she is going about this the right way? Let her know in the comments!

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