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Because of a disfiguring body condition, I have never been able to have a romantic relationship.
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Because of a disfiguring body condition, I have never been able to have a romantic relationship.
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I'm a middle-aged woman who, because of a disfiguring body condition, has never been able to date or have a romantic relationship.

As I've gotten older, I've struggled more and more with loneliness and, disturbingly, jealousy toward other women who can go on dates, have intimate relationships with men, and basically just participate in things like flirting, sexual banter, etc., without receiving reactions of revulsion from guys.

I'm trying my best to accept my situation in life (the surgical procedures which would improve my condition are not accessible to me), and trying to create a meaningful life in the absence of the possibility of romantic exchange or intimate contact. (And yes, I've considered using the services of male sex workers, but I don't think that would address my loneliness or jealousy.)

I hate feeling these jealous pangs toward 'normal-appearing' women and their relationships. What can I do to get over these feelings, given that I simply can never have what they have? 

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