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Do you throw yourself on them until they start acting normal?
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Do you throw yourself on them until they start acting normal?
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He was upset with me, he gave me the cold shoulder the rest of the day. He went to bed without saying anything. Now, it's been 14 hours. It wasn't a huge thing, we had it out verbally, no yelling, but lots of explaining, but he's still not speaking to me. He hasn't warmed up yet. I was giving him his space, but now it's at the point where I'm not sure if he's waiting for me to initiate things going back to normal or if he's still genuinely in need of not speaking to me.

If I get upset with him, I'm sure to be the one to make it known (a kiss and a "I'm sorry I ____. You did this, it made me feel this way. Next time, please _____. OK, we're good and I love you...") but he is not the same way.

How do you start to melt that ice after a quick/little spat with your partner? Do you wait for the person who was hurt to come forward and start acting normal again? Do you throw yourself on them until they start acting normal? Do you two end up in a stand-off to see who can NOT talk to who the longest until you both don't even care about what the fight was about?

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