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I Was A Mediocre Midwestern Stripper

Gwendolyn Kansen of The Frisky — Wed, 19 Jun 2013 12:30:00 -0400

The manager, a fat middle-aged man whose matter-of-fact manner made me uncomfortable copied my ID and gave me a contract to sign. Under my signature I wrote my new stripper name, “Delilah.”

10 Uniquely Awesome Things About Living In The South

Winona Dimeo-Ediger of The Frisky — Tue, 18 Jun 2013 10:30:00 -0400

There are a few aspects of Southern life that I’m not a big fan of (the wasps here are the size of birds), but for the most part, I already feel like Southern living is the only way to live.

7 Fictional Father Figures Who Helped Raise Me

Winona Dimeo-Ediger of The Frisky — Fri, 14 Jun 2013 10:30:00 -0400

Being the imaginative weirdo that I was, most of my alternate dads were completely and totally fictional, but that didn’t make them any less integral to my emotional development.

Are Wedding Gifts Optional?

Maggie Lite of The Frisky — Mon, 10 Jun 2013 17:00:00 -0400

After our wedding, when my husband and I finally got around to opening our gifts and noting who gave what for our thank you cards, we became concerned that a bunch of our wedding gifts might have been stolen.

On Being Called "Tiny"

Sara Tatelman of The Frisky — Mon, 10 Jun 2013 12:30:00 -0400

Tiny is a newborn puppy, or a kindergarten child, or, my 5’0″ mother who weighed 90 pounds on her wedding day. I haven’t weighed 90 pounds since middle school.

IHTM: My First Reaction to Having a Girl Was Fear My Daughter Will Grow Up to Look Like Me

Kate Fridkis of The Frisky — Fri, 07 Jun 2013 13:30:00 -0400

Instead of being fully happy, the way every new mother is supposed to, I was worried. I was worried that she would look like me.

What Do Rapists Think About Rape Jokes?

Dan Solomon — Tue, 04 Jun 2013 17:00:00 -0400

In a country in which 54 percent of rapes are never reported, telling rapists that what they did isn’t a big deal isn’t pushing any limits at all. It’s the damn status quo.

I Broke All the Dating Rules and I Still Found Love

Kristine Rose — Tue, 04 Jun 2013 13:30:00 -0400

I openly discussed my anxiety and history with depression, my strained relationships with my parents, and how I had lived with drug addicts in the past. I figured if these weren’t things they could hang with on the first date, they wouldn’t be OK with them later either.

Becoming Diana: One Trans Woman’s Journey To Self-Acceptance

Julie Gerstein of The Frisky — Fri, 31 May 2013 11:30:00 -0400

For most people, biology is destiny and that’s all — but for some, biology is a confusing, fraught, and frustrating concept, because their external bodies don’t match their internal feelings.

I’m Sick Of Being Told I “Must Accept” My Body

Amanda Chatel — Thu, 30 May 2013 10:30:00 -0400

In other words, I’m not very keen on my body, and I certainly don’t accept it. If one more person tells me I have to, I’m going to lose my shit and throw something really heavy and dangerous.

A Guide For Dealing With Casual Racism

Megan Reynolds of The Frisky — Thu, 23 May 2013 16:00:00 -0400

You cannot change the way people think in one sitting, but you can make sure they know that they’re wrong.

I’m A Professional Fetish Model

Roswell Ivory — Thu, 23 May 2013 10:30:00 -0400

I’ve been photographed in 13 countries and four states, tied up everywhere from stunning church ruins to secret underground dungeons below country mansions and have stomped down catwalks in just about every kind of outfit imaginable.

I Got An OB/GYN Exam In Iran And Was A Little Shocked By The Differences

Bahar Anooshahr of The Frisky — Mon, 20 May 2013 16:00:00 -0400

A routine check up at the OB/GYN could not be that complicated, I reasoned. Besides, nowhere in the United States does a specialist visit cost $16.

Is There A Penalty For Powerful Women Admitting Mental Illness?

Jessica Wakeman of The Frisky — Sun, 19 May 2013 09:00:00 -0400

The very fact this question occurs to me is a sign of just how skewed the thinking is on mental illness in this country: my mind is framing it, even if unintentionally, as a personal weakness

My Husband's a Better Parent Than Me

Susan Finch of The Frisky — Fri, 17 May 2013 12:30:00 -0400

I never thought I would succumb to the motherhood comparison game. But in the end, I was wrong. I did judge myself harshly. But it wasn’t against other moms. It was against my own husband.

Just Because I’m Gay Doesn’t Mean That I’m Attracted To You

Shanelle Matthews of The Frisky — Tue, 30 Apr 2013 13:30:00 -0400

I asked one of the women if she, as a heterosexual person, was attracted to every man she saw. Of course she said no.

First World Problems Are Real Problems

Kate Fridkis of The Frisky — Mon, 22 Apr 2013 13:30:00 -0400

I've started seeing #firstworldproblems cropping up a lot more when women were talking about all those things that get labeled “women’s issues.”

8 Lessons From Pickup Artists That Guys Should Actually Use

Rachel Khona of The Frisky — Thu, 18 Apr 2013 10:30:00 -0400

I always thought of PUAs as nightclub prowlers, dressed like they rummaged through a clown’s closet, decked out in Ed Hardy, looking like a cross between Steven Tyler and The Situation from “Jersey Shore.”

My Queerness Includes Men & That’s OK

Amanda Goldberg of The Frisky — Tue, 16 Apr 2013 16:30:00 -0400

I’m still struggling to accept that I’m truly bisexual, not gay.

Taylor Swift Is Allowed To Have A Lot Of Boyfriends, OK?

Jessica Wakeman of The Frisky — Wed, 13 Feb 2013 14:30:00 -0500

Let me ask you if that question would ever in one million years be asked about a young man like Justin Bieber or Nick Jonas or Taylor Lautner? Of course not. Because they are men. They and their man-testosterone are supposed to play the field.