Boundaries - xoJane

Why Do Women Always Have to Be The Condom Police, Anyway?

Emily — Thu, 14 Feb 2013 12:00:00 -0500

Never did it occur to wonder why it was that I was so often the sole person responsible for insisting on safe sex, why I was positioned repeatedly as the condom police, posed at the entrance to my vagina with a whistle and a handheld stop sign.

ASK LESLEY: How Do I Deal With Family Members Bringing Up My Weight and Eating Habits at Holiday Gatherings?

Lesley — Mon, 03 Dec 2012 16:00:00 -0500

BREAKING: It turns out YOU DESERVE TO ESTABLISH HEALTHY BOUNDARIES and to HAVE THOSE BOUNDARIES RESPECTED. Really!

Most of My Friends Are My Co-Workers (And Apparently That's Normal?)

Kate Conway — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 11:05:49 -0400

Though most people still refer to a person they met in school as their “best friend,” more and more people seem to be relying on their colleagues for input on the day-to-day drama of boyfriends and “Parks and Recreation.”

It Happened to Me: A Craigslist Stranger Paid Me To Be His Prom Date

Kate Conway — Mon, 28 May 2012 11:00:20 -0400

After a bit of cursory searching, I found the key: a poster offering $200 for someone to accompany him to his law school formal.

Analyze: My Transgressive Sex Fantasies Are Either About My Actual Husband or No-Touch Clintonian Monogamy

Rachel_1 — Fri, 25 May 2012 09:30:27 -0400

If you are related to me by blood or marriage, this isn't for you. Otherwise, enjoy the details of my real life sex fantasies!

Why I Talk About Rape

Emily — Wed, 25 Jan 2012 12:00:12 -0500

People often seem surprised that I am willing to discuss my rape in a public forum. What they don't know is that I will not miss one opportunity to talk about my rape to someone who is interested.

I Would Do Anything (Sexually) For Love

Emily — Wed, 04 Jan 2012 13:00:13 -0500

Yes, including that.

Help! I Have No Idea How Much to Tip During the Holidays

Daisy — Wed, 21 Dec 2011 18:00:08 -0500

All I want for Christmas is to know how much to tip the awesome people in my life.

My Parents Kept Me on a Leash and I Turned Out Just Fine

Jenny — Tue, 11 Oct 2011 11:00:13 -0400

I admit it looks weird, and makes me cringe a little at first. But as someone who actually grew up on the end of a leash, I can only be grateful.

Jane Needs Help: I'm Sick

Jane — Wed, 01 Jun 2011 09:02:20 -0400

Should I blame my swollen glands, achiness, lethargy, fever and chills on That Guy Who Licked My Feet the other day?

How to Set Sex Boundaries From Someone Who Knows

Emily — Tue, 17 May 2011 15:02:20 -0400

Just kidding, I'm actually terrible at this. But maybe we can figure it out together?