I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 8 months now and he's been unemployed for about 6 of those months. When we first started dating, it wasn't a huge issue that he wasn't working. That blissful honeymoon phase when your partner can do no wrong and they're imperfections can be over looked put some serious blinders on me.
He spent the summer keeping busy with coaching clinics for high school kids and winning money at tournaments every other weekend if not every weekend. The entire time we have been dating (save for a hellish 2 month stint working for a a seriously unethical person. Boyfriend was fired because he refused to perform an unethical task) he's been going on interviews, sending out resumes, and gone to some networking events/job fairs. (He's a lawyer and there are next to no openings on the east coast.)
I am his cheerleader and supporter and he escapes to my apartment every weekend because he had to move back in with his parents for financial reasons.
I understand he's frustrated but its also putting a big strain on our relationship.
Then there's the question of whether he really cares about because I've won over his family and friends or if I'm just a the perfect distraction for him. Or is it that I'm a 360 from his last relationship that he likes because I put him first versus him always putting her first? I'm at the point where I'm going to see a psychic this Saturday to help me figure it out.
He is a phenomenal guy who will come out on top no matter what, but I don't think I can put my wants on hold for much longer. My friends and family say he's one of the best things that's happened to me because he let's me be me.
Any suggestions? Should I stick it out and wait to see if things get better once he has a job?
What would you do with this guy? Let her know in the comments!
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